STRAINED RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT BEEFS

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Let’s imagine the world without friends. A world where nobody knows nobody except family. Someone would say we would be better off without friends. But guess what , you probably made the wrong friends.

We have met a lot of people from Churches, events and in school. School is where we have made the most friends. These are people we may have played with, shared items with or even disagreed with on issues. Some of this memories will live with us forever.

Change is bound to happen, and as friends you might drift apart. That is okay, it does not turn you into enemies. As you experience change, so does your friends. Your friendship with friends might suffer changes too as time goes on.

This changes can make you disagree on issues you formerly supported your friends on, and you are absolutely not untrammeled. Like they said, “opinions are like noses and everyone has one”. If you experience change, you are not culpable to disdain and so are your friends.

Apportioning blame once the vibe between you and your friends diminishes doesn’t make you a better person, you may be a contributor to the problem. Friends look out for each other and push each other. Try getting positively jealous of your friend and marvel at the level of growth you’ll experience. This means friends help you improve yourself and they are necessary to keep.

Treat friends as family instead of outsiders. Be a good friend and your friends will be delighted to meet you after years of losing contact. Let’s go down memory lane.

Quiet recently, a lady slide into my dm and introduced herself as my friend from basic school. I had obviously forgotten her and so I told her I do not recall anyone like that. She then showed me pictures of herself and I still did not recognize her. She was very persistent that we were friends and I did not understand why. So she called me and the first thing she said was ” if I was near you, I would have knocked you to jog your memory “. I found this funny and could not fathom how I had forgotten her because this was somebody I walked with to school everyday. It took one tiny detail about our friendship back then for me to remember her. This was someone I parted ways with nine years ago at a young age when we did not have cell phones. And if you were like me who changed schools often, then this is bound to happen. We have reconciled and are very good friends. Long story short……….

Be someone your friends will be eager to get back into contact with even after decades. Remember these are people who will be around to support you as you move on in life, build strong ties, treat each other as family and LIVE LIFE.